Why do we even try to help people?? We often assume we can help, but are blinded to our own insufficiencies. Then we think we’re right to help, and go on in a superior fashion.
No one asked! Keep your advice to yourself! If someone wants specific help, he will say so. It is not my place to assume I know what’s best–Who am I to think I hold the benefit for humanity? What is in my background, my present, my life, my soul that I am so infinitely full of wisdom? What causes my personal perspective to be so desirable to speak? Why must I even open my mouth?
And then, of course, when confronted, “I’m just helping…” Helping whom? Myself?
People may be dumb sometimes, but they are not full imbeciles. If left to oneself, a person will either survive, or die trying. How insulting to speak to him as though he were a child! Or worse, to take him strictly literally, not allowing for human error, and then pointing out his humanly error as soon as he commits it!
What is the point of picking out another’s errors? To help him? How?
“‘Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? How can you say to your brother, “Let me take the speck out of your eye,” when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.
“‘Do not give dogs what is sacred; do not throw your pearls to pigs. If you do, they may trample them under their feet, and then turn and tear you to pieces.'”
Stop assuming others are wrong. Instead, give others the benefit of the doubt that they did, in fact, have an intelligent thing to say. If we all have been given a brain, it is likely that we all have an intelligence. Therefore, use it for the good of others, and not to bring about personal gain and glory! How foolish it is to puff oneself up, thinking others admire, when instead they laugh and ridicule.
“The people you help should have a right to say ‘We don’t need you,’ ‘We don’t like how you help us,’ or ‘Let us help you.'”
“We can be judging by offering to help because we assume we understand another’s needs, but we’re not listening.”
Stop assuming. Listen. Speak sparingly.
Have a wonderful day.